Last night, I pre-uploaded this video for the following day. I woke up this morning not sure what to expect. Almost a year ago, I posted a video about my own cheating story, where I cheated on an emotionally and physically boyfriend I had dated when I was just a teen. The video brought on an onslaught of terrible, degrading, and hateful comments. If you watch my channel, you know that I don’t filter through my comments. I let people speak their minds, because after all, that is what I do myself. However, it definitely is disturbing going through some comments and seeing people write things such as “she deserves to be raped”, or “your boobs are disgusting”. Some people even mask their ridiculous comments with sincerity, acting like they are concerned for me and my partially exposed boobs. Today, a video that was supposed to be about an experience I had with an unfaithful boyfriend, turned into a shit storm of both women and men condemning me for wearing a revealing dress.
Now, I find it ridiculous to have to try and defend myself. Why defend myself for wearing a cute spring dress on the first warm day of the year? Why defend myself for feeling good about myself? My boobs are a part of my body, and they aren’t going anywhere. I’m not going to spend my life trying to hide them, that is just ridiculous. Furthermore, it’s not like I was completely nude in the video. I find it shocking that people can stomach the half naked instagram posts of models, but my low cut dress is too much? How about Jenna Marbles’ viral video of her dancing in her bikini? Is it wrong for people of all body types (not just thin) to want to embrace and celebrate their bodies? People telling me to cover up in the comments of this video, are the same people that would cry “body shaming” at those saying “fat girls shouldn’t wear leggings” or “just because they make it in that size doesn’t mean you should wear it”. Hear me out. No one should tell you how to dress, ever, for whatever reason.
About a week ago Kim Kardashian posted a semi-nude photo on the internet and everyone FLIPPED out. I flipped out too, but for different reasons. Because WHY does everyone all of a sudden care that Kim Kardashian is naked? Doesn’t this woman have a sex tape? Hasn’t she posed nude photos countless times before? But, all of a sudden, everyone has something to say about her motherly abilities, her intelligence, etc. Why can’t a woman embrace her body, her sexuality, be a good mom, AND be intelligent? Is it so hard for people to grasp that a woman is 100% capable of all of those things. Men are allowed to be sexual beings, successful businessmen, and not a single person bats an eyelash, but the moment a woman does so, she is a dumb whore.
Anyways, I guess what I am getting at is, don’t let anyone body shame you in any way. It is your body, you are allowed to do with it as you please. Don’t let anyone tell you your thighs are too big for shorts, that your breasts are too big for that top, that your arms are too big for sleeveless shirts, that you’re too short for that dress, too tall for that skirt. If you are happy with yourself, and if you can look into the mirror and smile with confidence, then that is all that matters. Years from now, it will not matter to you what people thought. Trust me, I have spent a lot of my life trying to alter the way that I dressed, did my makeup, and acted, to PLEASE people, but I forgot about the most important person: myself.
Today, I want you to love yourself.